I'm Lost! The Target Dating Thread

I'm trying to think what significant romantic liaisons have gone on at my store. I'm not in on the store gossip because I don't share any therefore don't get told any, but I do know of two significant "illegal" couples. One was an ETL and APTL; the ETL ended up transferring. The other one was GSTL and FA TM; they didn't tell anyone they were dating until one of them left Spot. Now everyone knows, but they were dating quite awhile while they were still TL/TM.

We used to have a married couple that worked here, and there's been a couple TM/TM dating pairs.
 
I'm not saying every makeup artist is beautiful or overtly attractive but you can't deny that some are gorgeous and beautiful. And at a stressful place like Target, eye candy helps. I've worked a couple of department stores and there were gorgeous makeup artists. One can dream.
 
The Dating Guide!​

I was weirdly bored today and see so many questions on this board (and in my own store actually...) about what is allowed and who can date who. Disclaimer though...anything is technically possible depending on who you know and what HR will allow pending investigation. However most of it is pretty black and white.

If you are a.....​

Team Member - Non AP/HR/GSA/Perishables Asst

Completely Okay! Go For It!
  • Dating another non AP/HR/GSA/Perishables Asst Team Member
  • Dating any TM/TL/ETL at another store
  • Dating a TL at your store that is not your direct supervisor - i.e. Cashier dating Logistics TL
  • Dating contract TMs such as Beauty Concierge or Target Mobile
Slight Conflict of Interest - Proceed With Caution Depending on Store:
  • Dating a GSA/Perishables Asst - No conflict of interest if you do not work in the same workcenter. Cashiers dating GSAs and PFresh TMs dating PAs is a slight conflict of interest depending on the authority your store gives to these positions. In my store for example, GSAs are only high potential TLs and would not be allowed.
  • Dating a Senior TL - most stores won't allow because the Senior TL may be LOD at any moment's notice, and anyone who is an LOD cannot date TMs. However your store may be open to it if you do not report directly to the TL
Not Allowed - Stay Away:
  • Dating anyone from AP/HR - Not allowed. AP could allow you to get away with too much from an investigation and shortage perspective, and the HR team could give you unfair favors in scheduling, change your punches, and other factors
  • Dating your direct TL supervisor - not allowed due to the nature of the reporting relationship. Huge conflict of interest.
  • Dating ANY ETL regardless of position or your STL - not allowed due to the fact that the LOD is the highest authority in the building and even ETLs that you do not report to are able to influence your position (merit scores, contribution meetings, etc.). STL is pretty self explanatory.
Team Leader - Non Senior, Including SFT

Completely Okay! Go For It!
  • Dating a TM that is not your direct report (i.e. Sales Floor TL dating cashier)
  • Dating any TM/TL/ETL at another store
  • Dating a TL peer outside of your department (i.e. GSTL dating Presentation TL)
  • Dating contract TMs such as Beauty Concierge or Target Mobile
Slight Conflict of Interest - Proceed With Caution Depending on Store:
  • Dating a Senior TL - most stores won't allow because the Senior TL may be LOD at any moment's notice, and the LOD will have to give direction to the TL which can cause conflict of interest. Although again, some stores will allow based on review
  • Dating a TL peer in your department (i.e. two Logistics TLs dating is pretty much not allowed due to the fact your working relationship is easily affected). I have seen stores where this is allowed but it is VERY rare.
Not Allowed - Stay Away:
  • Dating anyone from AP/HR - Not allowed. AP could allow you to get away with too much from an investigation and shortage perspective, and the HR team could give you unfair favors in scheduling, change your punches, and other factors
  • Dating your direct report - GSTL dating cashier or GSA, Sales Floor TL dating Hardlines TM...pretty self explanatory. So much potential for disaster.
  • Dating ANY ETL regardless of position or your STL - not allowed due to the fact that the LOD is the highest authority in the building and even ETLs that you do not report to are able to influence your position (merit scores, contribution meetings, etc.). STL is pretty self explanatory.
Executive Team Leader - non HR/AP, Senior TL

Completely Okay! Go For It!
  • Dating any TM/TL/ETL at another store
Slight Conflict of Interest - Proceed With Caution Depending on Store:
  • Dating a ETL peer - I have heard of many stories with two ETLs dating or being married but it is still iffy. It is too easy for there to be conflicts of interest during ETL meetings or a bad working relationship depending on their relationship. This would still to me be a big no-no in my district--one ETL has always had to transfer to another store.
Not Allowed - Stay Away:
  • Dating anyone in the store! As an LOD you are in charge of the whole store and thus all TMs directly report to you during that time. Plus ETLs and even SrTLs have access to modify timesheets, scheduling, AP camera room, and soooo much more. Do. Not. Do. It.
  • Dating your STL - umm....duh.
All HR/AP Team Members, Store Team Leader

Completely Okay! Go For It!
  • Dating any TM/TL/ETL at another store
Slight Conflict of Interest - Proceed With Caution Depending on Store:
  • STL dating another STL in the same district - I have not first hand seen this happen, but this relationship could affect things such as promotions and transfers between different stores. Now this is easily worked around, but not black and white. Depends on your DTL but most likely would be okay pending investigation.
  • STL dating a business partner or equivalent - Possible. But it is a huge conflict of interest in some positions such as STL dating HRBP or Group Merchandising Leader during assessments or visits. Don't even get me started on STL dating HRBP in context of hotline calls!
Not Allowed - Stay Away:
  • Dating anyone in the store! As a TM in these positions you have so many ways to give favoritism or unfair treatment that it would take forever to type them out.
  • STL dating a DTL, GTL, etc. - No. No. No. At that level you could probably move mountains at Target and get away with bloody murder.

​
 
Ok.. Just tell me no, even though it is 100% Spot OK.
Same team, same pay grade.

Please just tell me no.
 
ExpertTL said:
blah blah words I'm not copy and pasting the whole thing that'd be obnoxious this shortens it
Click to expand...

Can SOMEONE please edit this into the first post or something so it's the first thing everybody sees when they open the thread.
 
Question. Could a GSA from one store (store 0001 for example) date an ETL from a previous store (store 0002) he used to work at?
 
Well, I don't think you should date someone where you work at ...even if its ok by company standards....because if it ends badly then...you still have to see that person etc. I have seen this in my store several times. However, on the other hand.....it does make for some decent entertainment...when team member A dumps team member B and starts dating tm C....hey who needs Soaps....with all this drama
 
Helps that most of the females at my store are far older than me, or too young for me to feel comfortable flirting with. ie. I am twenty-five, most of the females are like eighteen to twenty, or over forty. Me dating an eighteen year old is legal, but it just seems sorta pedophile-like to me anyway since there's just a huge maturity difference between eighteen and twenty-five, much more than that same age range later on (forty-three and fifty are way less different than eighteen and twenty-five in mentality). Not to mention I think most eighteen year olds parents would flip the fuck out if they found out their daughter was dating someone seven years their senior.
 
Some of the college kids at my store have some crazy, dramatic love circle triangle thing going on. And one girl insists on having these sad /angry conversations in the break room always. She's in love with this guy and has been for at least my entire 2 years at target, but he just wants to be friends... Or "friends" lol.

I may have swiped an ETL right on okcupid's tinder-like thing. He was new at the time so I didn't know and I'm still not sure if it was actually him or someone who just looked really similar.
 
Since on paper we're all just sales floor now, I'm assuming a "sl" team member can't date a "hardlines" team lead?

Idc either way. Im just a curious person. I'm not interested in anyone except one etl for spank bank material lol.

I've detected it for idk, months, but the target mobile guy just found the courage to flirt with me and it's madd awkward. I don't wanna date anyone at work. I look younger than I am (I swear the red & khaki makes me look more youthful than normal) so everyone who ever flirts with me at work (guests included) is younger than my preferred age bracket.
 

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